Great Expectations

There are people in my life that I definitely hold to high expectations.  Husband is #1 on that list.  I expect alot out of him, mostly because I know what he is capable of…he is very intelligent, loving, caring, understanding, sympathetic when needed, and stern when I need a good kick in the ass.  I’ve come to expect these things out of him.  If I’m acting like a schmuck, I expect him to get me in line.  If I’m upset, I expect him to console me.  I LOVE being able to count on him for these things…but in the rare instance when he screws up (you know, like we ALL do from time to time…including little ol’ me), my high expectations lead to grave disappointment.

I can count on one hand the times that I’ve been disappointed in husband.  (I only used him as an example because I know he won’t take to heart what I write about him.  He knows how I feel and he’s okay with that.)  There are other people that seem to disappoint me and it really lets me down.  And in my book, disappointment is one of the worst feelings in the world.

Since I know what to expect from those other people, I’ve adjusted my expectations accordingly.  Notice:  I did NOT say “lowered,” I said “adjusted.”  I know what I can and cannot expect out of people.  I know who to call if I want advice about money.  I know who to call if I’m having a problem with husband.  I know who to call if I want to hear comforting stories that relate to my problems.  I know who to go to when I need to laugh.  I know who to call if I just want someone to shut up and listen.  And I know who I can trust with private matters and who will tell the whole world.  It’s just a matter of adjusting.

There are definitely things I do not expect out of anyone I know.  I do not expect  untrustworthiness.  I do not expect dishonesty.  And I do not expect disregard for anyone or anything except for him/herself.  Those are things that disappoint me…and always will.  No matter who you are or what you’ve done.  Those three things are just so very important that I’m having a difficult time putting it into words.  I do NOT adjust these things.  I expect these things out of everyone I know, especially you.

It isn’t about me.  It isn’t about living up to my expectations.  It really isn’t even about you.  For once, think of someone or something other than yourself and handle this situation like an adult.  Doing that one single thing will show so many people…including yourself…what a truly wonderful person you are.  And don’t you want people to know you’re wonderful?

Hi, everybody!!

(said in my best Dr. Nick voice)

I’m still alive!!  Yesterday I had a headache from hell.  You know, the sinus kind that makes your teeth, face, ears, etc. hurt.  It sucked bad.  And I learned just how BORING daytime television is. 

Everything’s good on the homefront and the pregnancy is progressing just fine.  I’m beginning to feel better and get a handle on things.  And, I must say, it isn’t so bad…now that I can eat food.

So, how’s that for a weekly update?!  Now, over to Forty Weex to update there!!

 Adios, amigos!!

No More…

…fortyweex.wordpress.com.  WordPress really irritates me with all of it’s security measures and stuff.  I couldn’t even put a counter in the sidebar!!  So, I deleted my pregnancy blog. 

 BUT…I have a new one.  The new address is http://fortyweex.blogspot.com/.  All of the posts have been transferred and more will come!!

Oh, dear.

So, the reason I decided to make a Pregnancy/Baby blog is so that when all of it is over, I can have it made into a book.  Nicole had her blog made into a book using Blurb and I think it’s just the greatest idea!!  I think it will be a very nice keepsake.  And maybe a warning for the next time I say, “Husband, I think we should have a baby.”

The problem I will begin having is what to post here and what to post at fortyweex.  I’m POSITIVE that most of what I write from now until I pop this thing out will be pregnancy/parenting-oriented.  I suppose what I’m saying is that you all shouldn’t expect regular posts on this blog for awhile (you know, because I’ve been an oh-so-regular poster lately…).  I will put forth as much effort as I can muster to post here once a week.  I plan to post at fortyweex atleast 3 times a week…and as I begin to feel like a functioning human again, more than 3 times a week.

I got an email from my friend Laura yesterday that was so very insightful…

“I am feeling fine, pretty normal. All the icky feelings from the first trimester have been gone for a while and it is just crazy that I am over half way there now. It is scary! I mean exciting but scary too! I have no idea how I am going to take care of a baby and get no sleep and all that. I also have no idea how I am going to work from home 2 days with a newborn, and the dogs! I know everyone says it will be fine. But still I like to know how things are going to be ahead of time. And since I have no way of knowing that, it is scary to me!
What on earth have we gotten ourselves into???!!! “

Great.  Now I have a whole new area of worrying.  That last line really sticks with you.  What have we done?!  I think I am correct in saying that Laura and I are alike in the fact that we like to have things planned out.  We like to know what’s ahead and know what to expect.  And, as she says, there is NO way of knowing.  What the hell were we thinking??

Well, Laura, as I’ve been told 1,453,454,579,832.648 times, “It is all worth it in the end.”  Keep your eyes on the prize, girl.

Hello, My name is…

…and I’m a slacker.  I know I said I’d have updates of very exciting things by the end of the weekend.  Well, I felt like hell for most of the weekend.  But I think by lunchtime on Monday is pretty damn close.

And now, I shall navigate you to here…

 Have fun with that one.

Forgive me, blogworld…

…for I have sinned.  It has been 9 days since my last entry.  Yes, NINE!!  And I have been pretty much absent from all internet stuff…including myspace and email.  I PROMISE, faithful readers, that something big will be here by the weekend.  I’ll make it happen…just bear with me.